Inside:Ten Things Every Mom Wants Her Tween Girl To Know
So, this is ten.
Ten is goofy and loud and fun.
It is opinionated and messy and sometimes moody.
Ten is the age when most kids start looking to their peers more and to their parents less.
Ten is when screens try to take over and growth spurts happen both in body and in intellect.
Ten means more homework and responsibilities, and less play time and giggles.
Ten is where it all begins and ends in the same point.
So, in honor of turning ten and officially becoming a tween girl, here are ten things I want you to know about life.
Ten things I want you to keep in mind as you move on to this next phase of growing up.
10 Things Every Mom Wants Her Tween Girl To Know
1. Your decisions are important
One decision can change the trajectory of your life. It takes courage to decide you are not ready for something, and courage to decide to make yourself vulnerable and try something new. Always be courageous.
2. Maintain your digital privacy
If you would not walk into the lunchroom and shout it out, don’t ever text or share it on social media. Your “friends” list will not adhere to the same standards of discretion about your life as you expect, particularly when hitting the forward button is so simple. And never hit send on an email before double checking who is in the “to” field. Trust me.
3. Use the right measurements
Life is not measured in the amount of likes you get on Instagram, numbers on a scale or even your GPA. And there isn’t a “thing” you can buy with the money you make that can fill a void in your soul. Always remember that life is about the impact you have on others, so work on building your brain and growing your heart, and the rest will fall into place.
4. Always believe the best in people
People can be mean. There will be a million times when someone says something or does something or you are told about something that rips your heart to shreds. Give that person the benefit of the doubt, and then offer them grace — because when this stuff happens, it is not about you, sweet child. It says infinitely more about them.
5. Use your voice
Never sit idly by while someone else is being treated poorly. Period.
6. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not
I often feel that all those cheesy sitcoms on the Disney channel have watered down your brain cells, but this is one lesson they constantly show that I hope has resonated with you. It feels good to fit in and it feels good to be liked, but you will find that being accepted only when you are pretending to be something you’re not is an exhausting, unfulfilling experience. And never act dumb to make someone else feel smart. It insults the both of you.
7. Take charge of your own happiness
No one can make you happy. It is a choice you have to make and it is hard. Trying to fill a void in your life with a person — or with another tangible such as food, alcohol, drugs, etc. is a lost cause. Find out what makes you the happiest, and then do that. A lot.
8. Never diss your siblings or your friends
You need them more than you know.
9. You are enough, exactly as you are
At a minimum of 50 times each day, you will be told you are inadequate, and Photoshop and social media will change what you think is normal. You will feel that your teeth are not white enough. Your hair is too flat. Your sneakers are cheap. Your thighs touch. Your makeup is wrong. Your biceps are too small. Your voice is too high. You workout too much. You don’t workout enough.
I wish I could say it gets better, but it doesn’t. Do not let these feelings break your spirit and fight against the urge to conform. Love yourself for who you are in this exact moment, because you are perfect. This is a lesson that most of us learn after having kids, but I’m letting you in on it now. You are a gift to this world, and if you ever forget, just ask. I know I’m just your mom, but I have a long list of compelling reasons why you are awesome.
10. The best is yet to come
The next decade will have a lot of highs and lows, but rest assured that no one wants to peak in high school, and you have the best that life has to offer sitting before you. And as it becomes less often that you reach back to grab my hand or beg me to lay with you for just five more minutes, or think I’m the smartest person in the whole wide world, I’ll always be there for you — even when I let you fall before raising you back up.
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Victoria says
“I’ve got your back!”
No matter how hard, how ugly it got I’m right here!
Michele says
Thank you for this. I’ve been searching for some outside family advise to raising a happy daughter in this busy / technology crazed world. I loved every point which gives me some hope that I’m not too far off ☺️. This is something I’ll be referring to quite often as we venture into tween and then teen years.