Inside:transitions are a part of life, but as they become easier for our children, they often become more difficult for us
My son has a new game.
Every morning when he wakes up, he walks into the kitchen and then comes over to stand toe to toe with me.
He grins mischievously as he takes his hand and measures where the top of his head lands.
These days, it’s not even two inches from the top of my own.
“Almost,” he says as he laughs, knowing that before too long he’ll be the taller one.
I’m 5’10, so I’m no shrimp, but he’s closed in on me quickly.
A few days ago he blew out 13 candles on his Birthday cake.
And just like that, we transitioned into the teen years.
Life is Full of Transitions
But at no time in our lives are we more aware of them, than when we become parents.
We watched our children when they were little struggle with one transition after another.
There were the more physical ones, like rolling over to sitting up, walking to crawling, turning baby talk into real words we could actually understand.
And then there were the more emotional ones of everyday life like moving from playing to cleaning up, saying goodbye to mommy or daddy when they had to go to work, wrapping up at the end of the day and getting ready for bed.
It was amazing how these very simple changes in our child’s day could throw them off. Often resulting in tiny bodies thrown to the floor, kicking and screaming in protest followed by desperate pleas
“Just five more minutes, mommy…”
We became experts over time in preparing our children for these transitions.
We learned how to give them enough warning so they knew what to expect and when.
We tested and perfected just the right speaking tones that would help ease them from point A to point B without a meltdown.
And we filled them up with all the love we could pour into them so they had the confidence and the strength to handle more on their own.
It was one of the most important skills we acquired as moms and yet we rarely think of it in those terms. It became one of those things that we “just do.”
But we spent so much time helping our children through the tough transitions they faced in their lives, both big and small, that we rarely gave ourselves the same grace.
We tended to their emotions, fully focused on getting them through life with as much peace as possible and never noticed our own inner turmoil.
We ignored it, because again, as a mom that becomes one of those things that you “just do”.
Until, a moment would catch us off guard
And all those feelings we stuffed down inside came rushing to the surface.
There are so many of these moments…..
It’s catching a glimpse of our child in our rear-view mirror and noticing his cheeks are just a little less chubby.
It’s the first time he doesn’t want to hold our hand in front of his friends.
It’s 13 candles being blown out on a Birthday cake.
Suddenly, our eyes are filling with tears.
But, we brush away them away so our child won’t see and swallow the sadness.
We remind ourselves that he is still our little boy. At least for now. And then we silently whisper, “Slow down. Please, slow down.”
But it only seems to go faster
Legs get longer, chests get broader, feet somehow double in size overnight. Voices deepen, hugs are fewer
and problems get bigger along with their attitudes.
And that sweet face of our little boy, now looks more and more like that of a man.
We know these are signs of what is coming,
The hardest transition of all.
Just not for him.
We’ve prepared him well. There will be no tantrums or need to ease him through with soothing words.
He is more than ready for this new challenge.
But now it will be our turn to make that desperate plea
“Just five more minutes….”
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