Why are Chores for Children important?
We’ve all read the stories about today’s twenty-somethings.
The boomerang generation.
The go-nowhere generation.
Generation “y” bother.
These are just a few of the labels that follow them around.
There are any number of theories and about a million articles that attempt to explain the challenges faced by these young adults.
But then, let’s talk about how OUR kids are being described; Lazy, Entitled and Tech Addicted.
There are probably elements of truth in all of this and yet at the same time not everything is deserved. Overall though, many people will agree that the phenomena of helicopter parenting is definitely contributing to generations of kids who are growing up unable to manage even the most basic responsibilities of adulthood.
In an attempt to be both their best friends and their most ardent protectors, we parents are guilty of shielding them from many of the realities of life that help a child mature into a productive and self reliant adult.
So, what do we do? How do we change this trend?
It’s actually rather simple, we give them chores.
Chores for Children And the Decline of Parental Expectations
One of the significant ways in which the household dynamic changed in recent decades was a steep decline in the expectation that children would contribute to the household in age appropriate ways.
Some parents felt that the time spent on such menial tasks was not as worthwhile as working on homework. In other situations, children were so over-scheduled with activities crammed into every waking moment that there just wasn’t room for chores.
What these parents often overlooked unfortunately was that chores can be just as important to the future success of any child.
Chores can be “easy wins” for kids, they usually don’t take much time, but they can steadily build a strong work ethic, confidence and even a sense of pride for being able to give back to their family.
They are also essential to developing the basic life skills that will be needed to survive outside mom and dad’s house.
Chores for Children – What Are Your Kid Capable of?
Below you will find a printable chore chart you can hang on your fridge or even each child’s door that lists the types of chores for children that are appropriate at different ages.
For some people, the suggestions may be shocking.
That is part of the problem.
By forgoing chores, we’ve arrived at a point where we often underestimate what our children are capable of and when.
Download FREE Kids Chore Chart
Children are not helpless, they are helpers. Take advantage of this untapped support staff in your own home.
Your kids really will thank you for it some day and you will free up some much deserved time for yourself right now!
“The message I want my children to know by doing their chore list is ‘You are Important. I value your help. Your work is good work.'”
– Leah Martin
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We would love to know, what chores did you have to do as a child?
What chores for children do you think are important?
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Mary says
I was raised with 4 younger siblings and we tidied our room washed dishes and hoovered, i looked after my younger siblings as my parents worked and had to heat up food and dish up meals prepared by my mum, (no microwaves in those days).. it never did us any harm and when i married and had my own home i kept it the way i was shown,,, so when i had my own 3 sons all over 30 now, they were taught from an early age to do chores, they iron, hoover and cook as this is the way i raised them. Nobody was going to say my boys were useless…. yes its good to give a kid chores and it makes them independent… and my middle son was always looking for extra ways to earn pocket money and had a paper round, delivered the milk at 6 in the morning granted he was about 15 at the time.
My 20 month old grandson will put his used paper sweets in the bin, he also hates getting his nappy changed and so we made it a game by allowing him to bag it in a nappy sack and take it outside to the waste bins and he gets to throw it in, plus he shuts the bin lid, and he is given a high five and praise…we now have to do this every dirty nappy change. He is very independent and I see nothing wrong with letting kids help out.
I have seen and know kids who lived a privilege life and haven’t a clue or pretend not to have one, who rely on others, nobody wants to share a flat or college dorm with a slob,, if parents don’t allow their kids to carryout the simplest basic responsibilities before adulthood then were doing them an injustice.
Our job is to make our children independent and self reliant we aren’t going to be around forever so we must instil our knowledge on them at an early age, we are their parents first and foremost, we are not their friends !! afraid we will upset them or they will dislike us if we give them chores or discipline them by grounding them, but we can still be a parent and be there for them.. however if were seen as the big bad wolves while doing this, so be it. They will realise further down the line we did it for a good reason. I tell my kids and my grandkids there is nothing you cant tell me, cos I’ve probably done it before you.. and yes i maybe angry by what you tell me, but we will always try to sort it out together..
Nicole says
Thank you for this list! I wasn’t allowed to mow the yard yet until I was 12 when I was physically a little stronger, but yard work like raking leaves, pick up sticks, helping to put away seasonal outdoor cushions and helping keep the shed tidy absolutely 10 and above. People tend to forget (based on some of the negative comments), that we are not raising children and teens, but young healthy and well adjusted adults. Now that NEVER excuses any kind of abuse and I sincerely hate when any child or teen is every forced to do anything under physical, verbal or mental violence. So, my heart cries out to those who have had to experience such trauma. I am a 45 yr old woman who was raised to do your part in the family construct, it was never to the extreme, but I sincerely appreciate everything I was taught by watching my grandparents, Parents and siblings taking pride in the work they asked to do. Children want to help so desperately at a young age, so having a guide to instruct them in a loving and safe manner is wonderful and I thank you for this quick guide :).
susie tuberville says
At 6 I washed the dishes if I didn’t
Get them clean I got a speaking.
At 7i was cooking and washing dishes. At 8 I was handed a baby to care for along with my other chores plus washing close hanging them out to dry bring them in folding and putting them away.at 11 I was handed another baby to car for. To this day I hate washing dishes. Washing close or any house work give me a rake a shovel and a lawnmower and I’m in heaven
Amanda says
Thank you so much for sharing this! My son is still super tiny but I’ve been wondering when exactly it’s appropriate to expect certain things of him.
Carol says
This is the best article I’ve ever read concerning parents and children. My half brother has had the red carpet rolled out before him his entire life and now at near 30 still cannot function on his own and still living at home with parents paying no rent. I think that’s another good point to make that children should begin to pay rent and boarding as soon as they commence employment. Oblivious of the trail of wet towels left to mould on the floor in his wake is also makes a shitty flat mate that friends shouldn’t have to pick up after either. People need to step up and take responsibility for their own actions from a very young age as you’ve so well charted in this article. Well done!! Bravo !!
Shelli says
That’s too much control over children. Toddlers can’t reach table for example I could go off but choosing not to. You also have a post not raising entitled children. My mom made herself entitled I did her job at 4 and changed diapers. Expected to grow up as her mini me. Expected straight A’s if not it was my ass. Long story short it’s too much on kids especially with all the school shootings. I have pstd due to some of that and got away from her at 17 cuz she kicked me out of the house and wound up in a abusive relationship looking for someone to give me a break figure out who I am. 43 yrs of abuse calm the list down
Kira Lewis says
I’m so sorry that you had the experience that you did growing up. I know that there are so many children who are robbed of their childhoods too soon and it saddens me to my core. I can totally understand how you have the feelings you do. However, I think there are also plenty of children in the opposite position who are given everything in their lives and are not taught to have accountability or to contribute and as a result we unfortunately have a problem with entitlement. We can love our children with all our hearts while at the same time giving them a firm foundation that includes compassion for others, work ethic and proper life skills. Every child is different and each parent should decide when they can take on certain chores. I have really tall kids, so having them put a fork and a napkin on 4 place settings at age three was not too much to ask of them and honestly they were incredibly proud to be able to help. At that age, they also loved sorting the recycling. Sometimes we think that having reasonable expectations of our children is putting pressure on them, when in fact its simply showing them that we believe in them and their capabilities. Also, in many cases, instead of feeling like a burden, children actually get a sense of pride when they can also give back to their families or their communities in a positive way. The guidelines we gave are in line with many other well regarded sources, but again, every child is different and we don’t believe anything is a one size fits all suggestion. Again, my heart goes out to you for the experiences you’ve had in your life and I hope that you’re in better place now and have found the support you need to begin healing.
Kristine says
Some good suggestions, but don’t agree with mowing the lawn at the age of 10 or 11,still to dangerous also did I see this right family budgeting? Come on 11 years old
Katie says
I like the list, however, there are some spelling errors. Is there any way these can be fixed? If so, then I would love to print it! Thanks!
Kira Lewis says
Katie – It’s all fixed! Sorry for the delay and thank you so much for bringing it to our attention. 🙂 🙂
Lauren says
My son, who is 9, helps out a lot! He will vacuum, fold laundry, unload the dishwasher, take out the trash, scrub toilets, clean the shower, water plants, etc. Most of these started around summer break when I decided to set up responsibilities and designated days for housework tasks. He always helps keep an eye on my youngest, who is 21 months old, if I step out of sight, and he helps tidy up by putting toys away. Of course, I have to ask him and remind him, but he does it. He is learning that even boys must help up around the house and aren’t exempt from housework. I’m training a future husband, after all, and what wife doesn’t like a man who can clean?
Darcee says
I like your list! My 2 year old does all of the recommended except for the laundry (i tend to do my laundry after bedtime :P) But he also does some of the 4 year old chores such as setting the table, getting a snack (he is allowed to get veggies from the fridge) and feeding our pup! He just LOVES being independent and I can’t believe how helpful he truly is for his age!