Being a mom often means that so much of what you do on a daily basis goes under appreciated and unacknowledged. Yes, you knew what you were signing up for when you took the job and of course you are rewarded in many other ways.
However, sometimes it would be nice to get that verbal reassurance that what you’re doing matters. Whether you’ll admit it or not, that is the one thing you probably want most from your husband and your children – simply words. Words of recognition, words of encouragement and words of support. Words that too often you don’t hear.
So, today, let me be the one to give you those words.
Because maybe today your the mama crying because the last thing you did before you child walked out the door was to yell at them and now you regret. Or maybe because you were late to work again, because you’re child just really need that extra hug and attention this morning. Or maybe your just feeling overwhelmed and exhausted and like you’re failing at all.
Whatever may be going on with you today, here is what I want you to know and take to heart.
You are a good mom
No you are not a perfect mom, but that is not what your children require. And while you most likely focus on those times you fall short, your children will remember all the rest.
Your warm hugs, welcoming lap and soft kisses. The countless bedtime stories read and nights you stayed by their side to fight off imaginary monsters or fevers that raged. All the practices you drove them to and games and recitals and concerts you watched. The homework you helped them through and the years upon years of school projects you made sure got turned in on time.
The holidays and birthdays you always made special. Family trips you planned and traditions you started. Tears you dried, boo boos you kissed and hearts you mended over and over again. You were there and you loved them with all that you are and that makes you a good mom.
You are raising good people
You can’t help but wonder if you’re raising them right.
You watch them struggle and see their challenges and faults so clearly. You worry if they will grow up to be not only capable, but kind and caring too. But if these are your worries, let me promise you than without a doubt you are raising good people.
The very fact that you are aware of the importance of bringing up children that treat others well sets your child up for success.
And we’ve already established that you are a good mom. The kind of mom who models self-sacrifice and compassion and love. If this is what they see and experience every day in their lives, over time it will shape their character and define their values.
They will not be perfect, but that is not what you or the world requires of them. You’ve shown them grace and by your example they will give it to others in return.
You are not alone
It’s so easy to think you are the only mom who doubts herself or her children.
But I promise you that you do not shoulder this burden by yourself. Look around at the other moms you know and interact with every day. They, like you, question all the time if they are worthy, if they do enough, if their kids will be okay.
It doesn’t matter what they look like on the outside, or what they post on social media. Inside and offline, they are just like you.
Now the beauty of these words I’m giving you today is that they are easily passed forward.
Because there is another mama out there who needs to hear them too.
So, next time you are at the store and a frazzled mom is trying hard to wrangle her screaming kids, give her a smile of reassurance and tell her, “You are a good mom.”
When you see another mom’s children on their best behavior or being kind to others, make the extra effort to let her know, “You are raising good people.”
Or when another mom confides in you that she is overwhelmed, take her hand and say, “Me too. You are not a alone.”
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