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The Valuable Lesson P!nk Taught Me About Motherhood & Raising Girls

By Kira Lewis 6 Comments

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What I learned from P!nk about motherhood and raising girls who accept themselves for being perfectly imperfect.

Inside:Raising girls. The lesson P!nk taught me about imperfection and mothering

I was laying on the table in my OB/GYN’s office with that clear goo all over my belly.

The ultra-sound tech moved around the little wand trying to get a clear picture of the bean sized being inside me, so she could officially tell us the gender of our 2nd baby.

For me it was a mere formality. I already knew what we were having.

It was going to be a boy.

I’d been having dreams since I was a child about being a mom of all boys.

I could almost picture what each one of them looked like with matching toe heads and bright blue eyes. Four carbon copies of the 4 year old boy sitting on his father’s lap a few feet from me.

So, there wasn’t a doubt in my mind…

“Are you ready to find out what you’re having?” the tech asked in an annoyingly perky voice.

I nodded at her with a bit of a smug grin.

Sure, why not, let’s just make it official.

“It’s a girl!” she said

Raising girls, lessons from P!nk on being a role model for your daughter and teaching her to be perfectly imperfect

 

Wait, what?

My husband and I stared at her, mouths gaping for a few uncomfortable seconds.

I finally managed to spit out,  “Umm, no, you need to look again. I’m pretty sure it’s a boy.”

This was clearly not the reaction she was expecting.

She made a confused face and said to us, “Nope, it’s definitely a girl. Now you’ll have one of each, that’s great, right?”

I could tell she was hoping to move me from shock to joy over her happy news.

I was kind of spoiling the moment.

But I simply looked at my husband, eyes filled with confusion and fear.

How is this possible?

It wasn’t that I didn’t want a girl.

Having been certain from such a young age that I was destined to be a mom of all boys, I held a secret hope that maybe a daughter was possible.

 

Raising girls, lessons from P!nk on being a role model for your daughter and teaching her to be perfectly imperfect

 

I had been a total girlie girl growing up and loved the idea of frilly dresses with matching bows, hosting doll tea parties and watching all the Disney princess movies.

The fear for me was not in having the girl, it was in raising girls in today’s world.

 

You’re so mean,

When you talk, About yourself, You were wrong

Change the voices, In your head

Make them like you Instead

 

What was I afraid of exactly?

I know too many fellow mother’s today, friends, family members or just acquaintances that are extraordinary. Yet they don’t recognize their own value or they don’t have the confidence to put it forward.

I think much of it comes from the fact that despite the insistence of the progress we’ve made, most girls and thus the women they become, are still not comfortable in their own skins or confident about their choices.

We are still the “pleasers” and we continue to look to others to define who we should be, what we should want and how we should behave.

We conform, because we too often look to external affirmations, rather than ourselves, to determine our self-worth.

 

The whole world stares so I swallow the fear,

 So cool in line and we try, try, try,But we try too hard, it’s a waste of my time

Done looking for the critics, cause they’re everywhere

They don’t like my jeans, they don’t get my hair

We change ourselves and we do it all the time

Why do we do that? Why do I do that?

 

It’s not surprising

Considering the mixed messages that persist both for young girls and for moms about everything from their appearance to their life path.

No choice is the right choice and no matter who we are or what we do it’s not enough.

This is what scared me about having a daughter.

Was it possible to save her from this pit of inadequacy that threatened to swallow her whole and spit out a shadow of her real self?

 

Raising girls, lessons from P!nk on being a role model for your daughter and teaching her to be perfectly imperfect

 

I really didn’t know if I would be able to combat all the other voices and influences in my daughter’s life and keep her sense of self intact.

More than that, I doubted my ability to help her learn to do it for herself, so she could live a life where the opinions of others are put in their proper place and no one’s matter more than her own.

I think this is why, shortly after that fateful day in my OB’s office,  I found myself becoming a die-hard fan of P!nk!

Not the color, but the rocker/song-writer/mom.

Sure she’s got some crazy hair, tattoos, and her life has had some messy moments, but the fact that she is so imperfect is kind of the point.

I love that she has always been so unapologetically flawed.

Through this persona and her music, P!nk communicates a desperately needed message for girls and women today.

One, which doesn’t just encourage, but demands that we be more accepting of ourselves.

Since my daughter is now only six, it will be some time before I find out for sure.

BUT what I am certain about already is how much more grateful, then fearful, I have become about mothering this little girl.

She has forced me to be fiercer, to take more risks and to embrace my imperfections, because she is always watching me.

 

Raising girls, lessons from P!nk on being a role model for your daughter and teaching her to be perfectly imperfect

 

Therefore, I must see myself through her eyes.

I must be the kind of woman I hope my daughter will become and I have no choice but to genuinely like that person.

No, it’s not always easy, but in those moments when I hear too many voices telling me I’m not enough, I just turn up the volume and sing along with P!nk.

 

Pretty, pretty please

Don’t you ever, ever feel

Like you’re less than perfect

Pretty, pretty please

If you ever, ever feel

Like you’re nothing

You are perfect to me

 

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What I learned from P!nk about motherhood and raising girls who accept themselves for being perfectly imperfect.

 

How are you raising girls that are more accepting of themselves?

Filed Under: Mom Life Tagged With: Inspiration for Moms, motherhood, P!NK, parenting, Raising Girls, Self Acceptance

About Kira Lewis

Kira Lewis is a mom to a strong and sassy 8 year old girl and a funny, soccer playing teen boy.  Her career has included everything from corporate ladder climbing to teaching yoga. She's settled for now on free-lance writing and blogging where she covers topics like motherhood, parenting, technology, Florida travel and raising tweens and teens.Keep up with her parental musings by subscribing to sunshine and hurricane's weekly newsletter HERE.

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Comments

  1. Meagan says

    April 20, 2015 at 11:03 am

    Motherhood seems so hard to me! I try and observe others all the time to pick up tips from extraordinary mothers I admire like you say. I’ve heard about a lot of mom guilt so I’m worried about that someday, but I think this is a good example of looking at all the good being done and how hard Moms try to make great experiences for their kids.

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  2. Linda @ With A Blast says

    April 20, 2015 at 8:56 am

    This is a lovely post ! I enjoyed reading it from top to bottom !

    Reply

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