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Life Is Too Short To Count Sprinkles

By Kira Lewis 10 Comments

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We want to create a space where parents (or non-parents for that matter) can find ways to make life easier and more meaningful. Where they can learn ways to foster more independent kids. Where they can find friendship during difficult times and where they can find all sorts of ways to just have more fun in life. Being a mom, and definitely being a great mom, has nothing to do with counting sprinkles.  However, it has everything to do with you being the person you were meant to be, and accepting the mother that makes you.   Join us over at Sunshine and Hurricanes!

Michelle and I are fairly new bloggers and we’re still in the process of finding the full identify of our blog. Overall, we know that our underlying motivation was to create a space where we can encourage other parents to let go a little, both for their own well being and for their kids. We keep saying we’re like the anti-helicopter parents but we just can’t come up with the right title for what that is exactly. (If you’ve got any suggestions, we’d love to hear ’em).

We want to create a space where parents (or non-parents for that matter) can find ways to make life easier and more meaningful. Where they can learn ways to foster more independent kids. Where they can find friendship during difficult times and where they can find all sorts of ways to just have more fun in life.  We also really want to help moms. We know so many moms out there, whether they admit it or not or show it on the outside, are struggling and just aren’t enjoying their life and aren’t enjoying being parents. They feel like they are doing it all wrong. But they’re NOT!!!

You know what, Michelle and I are great moms. Yes, I said it, I know that’s crazy, right? In today’s world, we’re not supposed to feel like great moms, let alone actually announce it to the world. We’re supposed to always feel like we’re not good enough, not doing enough, somehow just not measuring up. However, not only are she and I great moms, so are about all the moms we know.  I would actually go out on a limb and say so are most moms that we don’t even know.

Does that mean being a great mom looks the same for Michelle and I? Definitely NOT! Despite the fact that I swear we were the same person in another lifetime, as moms and as people we are quite different on many fronts. There could be two dozen kids running through her house every day of the week and she wouldn’t look even a little bit phased by it, in fact she would probably like it. Me on the other hand, I would need anxiety medication.  She will absolutely be the mom who has “that” house where all her kids friends want to hang out as they get older along with the entire neighborhood. I will be the mom curled up with a book enjoying the silence knowing my kids are hanging out at her house and they are perfectly fine.  You know what? That is totally okay.  We are all our own kind of mothers and we are exactly the kind of mothers our kids need.

However, I’m going to be honest here, there is one kind of mother that none of us should be. That is the mom that counts sprinkles. What does that mean exactly? Well, during one of our 10, 321 phone calls, texts and in the car chats that take place every week, Michelle had told me about this quote she had seen somewhere, she wasn’t even sure where at the time. I was skeptical that such a statement could exist, but sure enough, I found it on Pinterest.

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She said to me, ” I swear, if one of my mom friends ever tells me she’s counting the sprinkles on her kids cupcakes, I’m going to hit her over the head like Bunny Foo Foo”.  On this one, Michelle and I are on the same page. At the end of the day, if you feel you have to go so far as to count sprinkles to be a good mom, then you truly have lost yourself to all the external messages of Pinterest and Facebook and Parenting Books and Magazines and TV and judgey other moms telling you the  kind of mom you SHOULD be.  And if you’re acting out the role of the mom you think you SHOULD be, then you’re not being the mom you are meant to be.

Being a mom, and definitely being a great mom, has nothing to do with counting sprinkles.  However, it has everything to do with you being the person you were meant to be, and accepting the mother that makes you. When you are able to do that, then by your example, your children learn how to love themselves and how to accept the people they are meant to be. To me, wanting that for your children, now THAT is when you know you’re a mom!

Filed Under: Mom Life Tagged With: Counting Sprinkles, Expectations., motherhood, parenting

About Kira Lewis

Kira Lewis is a mom to a strong and sassy 8 year old girl and a funny, soccer playing teen boy.  Her career has included everything from corporate ladder climbing to teaching yoga. She's settled for now on free-lance writing and blogging where she covers topics like motherhood, parenting, technology, Florida travel and raising tweens and teens.Keep up with her parental musings by subscribing to sunshine and hurricane's weekly newsletter HERE.

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Comments

  1. Rica @Yoga Mat Monkey says

    July 13, 2015 at 6:57 am

    This is a great reminder that we need to be authentic in all we do, parenting included. I spent too many years being miserable by comparing my parenting to that of other mothers. My kids never got to enjoy the mom I was, “meant to be.” Good thing this parenting thing never ends. I have a chance to redeem myself and be as silly and unconventional as possible!

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  2. Tracie says

    September 5, 2014 at 1:06 pm

    There are so many actually important things to be doing in this life – counting sprinkles doesn’t even make the list!

    Love this post.

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  3. Elaine A. says

    September 5, 2014 at 11:47 am

    Just last week I wrote a post called “I’m Such A Good Mom”. I’m hoping it will catch on and that other mothers will realize how great they really are. And counting sprinkles should be outlawed! 😉

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  4. Jenn says

    September 3, 2014 at 7:28 pm

    LOVE this post and so happy I found your blog. Thanks for the inspiration!

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  5. Mamarific says

    September 3, 2014 at 2:37 pm

    My favorite line from this: “We are all our own kind of mothers and we are exactly the kind of mothers our kids need.” So true, and you’re right…why are we afraid to say we’re great moms? I hope you’re starting a trend.

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  6. Chris Carter says

    September 3, 2014 at 2:27 pm

    Now see I may be have a different take on that… I totally agree that EVERY mom with good intentions deserves the respect and admiration period. YAY for you for creating that platform!! However…

    The mom who may count the sprinkles? She is a good mom too. Who are we to judge? Isn’t that what your mission is in the first place?

    I don’t count sprinkles… but I actually do invest in trying to be fair with my kids. Why? Because I want to create an atmosphere of respecting their place in our family, and supporting their vulnerable identity that is slowly forming.

    I may not count the sprinkles, but to the mom who does? Bless her well intentioned heart. 🙂

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    • Kira Lewis says

      September 3, 2014 at 3:25 pm

      Thank you for your thoughts Chris and I appreciate your perspective so much. Overall, if that is being true to who she is then you are right, bless her heart and by all means she should count sprinkles. However, I guess where I was coming from is that often as moms we do things that aren’t true to ourselves and go over the top, because we’re trying to live up to some unrealistic picture in our minds that we get from external sources. Overall, yes, I just want us to be the moms we are meant to be and stop worrying so much about being the mythological supermom.

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  7. Shell says

    September 3, 2014 at 10:51 am

    Love what you are doing with your blog!

    Counting the sprinkles? No freaking way! Kids survive without getting the exact same thing- and if one of mine wanted to complain b/c his brother got more sprinkles, I’d solve that problem by eating the cupcake myself. 😉

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  8. MRS. AOK says

    June 7, 2014 at 1:10 pm

    I love Pinterest, I *try* to make some things Pinterest-perfect, but I know I’m *not* perfect; I’m perfect enough! I have NO shame saying I’m a great Mom. I am a great mom, however I also have bad days, and on those days…. I feel like a not-so-great mom.
    As far as sprinkles… I would NEVER count the sprinkles on the cupcakes in fear of crying kids.
    “You get, what you get, and you don’t throw a fit,” that’s my response.
    I do know a mother or two who would do that, and I understand why, but sadly, in life, not everything is fair or comes in rounded numbers, to benefit us. The sooner we teach kiddos that, the better.
    Thanks for sharing via Mommy Monday.
    XOXO
    p.s. I am a bit helicopterish and I’m totally cool with that too 🙂

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    • Kira Lewis says

      June 18, 2014 at 2:19 pm

      We’re fans in our household of the “you get what you get” response. And I hear you, boy, do we ALL have those days when we think our mommy license should be revoked. Luckily, our kids love us anyway and I think they even kind of like it when we’re not perfect. It helps them to know that if moms and dads aren’t perfect, then it’s okay for them not to be either.

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